First let me say I understand on the problems with your mother. My mother developed serious health issues which taking care of her became a full time job until her death. I had to give up working on anything petty much. I am just now getting back into it full time.
To remove the valves you will need a valve spring compressor and there is several type and styles out there. I use the following tool myself for these l-head engines. This is available as after-market and is available through your local auto part supply stores. There is other versions of removal tools but this one work fairly well on this l-heads as is fairly reasonable cost wise.

First you would position the spring retainer so the larger part of it keyway faces away from you or toward you whichever is easiest for you to remove it later. Here is a picture of what the retainer looks like. This engine use the same type of retainer as the Briggs l--heads.

With the valve in the closed position, you insert the tool it engages as of the spring as possible including the retainer and compress the assembly. Gently work it to disengage the retainer so you can remove the valve. Once the valve is removed you can remove the spring and retainer.
Now to adjust the valve gap you hand file or grind the stem off ever so slightly and check the clearances as you go. It will not take much to do this and it can be easily over done if you get too aggressive about this filing. Just remember that this filing must be keep at 90 degrees of the stem so there will be no high and low spots. For me, I do my adjustment for the exhaust valve when the engine is on the intake stroke (intake valve fully open and exhaust fully closed) as to have compression release out of play. When you get close to final clearance gap you need to reinstall the spring and retainer to fully seat the valve or your gap checks will be off. Yes it is a little time consuming what it takes it to get the clearances right.
Also once you get valve to fully seat it is time check your valve face and seat for pitting and hand grind them using valve grind compound and the suction cup tool for good seating if needed before final gap setting.

I would set the clearance to larger clearance gap in the specs as these will close up over time again; otherwords, if the spec is .004" to .008" then I would use the .008" clearance. It is right opposite on OHV valves as they tend to open up over time.
Once you get things where you want them and after you reinstall the spring and retainer hand cycle the engine a few turns to make sure you have the retainer lock into place. Then you can reassemble the engine.
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